Lately I have come across many actions and reactions of people who say or do things in the name of love.
They say they love but when I look at their words , their deeds I wonder: “Do they understand love? Do they understand themselves? Do they understand love or do believe they do?
Do they act and react out of what they consider love”?
I’m asking “ is this loving”:
- You do what I think is the best ……
- If you do not do what I think is the best for you …..
- What will others say if they know…… Shame on you!
- If you behave the way I or others want you to ……
- You have hurt me because you…..
- If you love me you should forget yourself and others completely
- If you love me I should come first always
- If you love me you can understand me totally and I can understand you
- Because I love you ,you are mine
Etc.etc.
I wonder if there’s a mix up somewhere.
Is ‘to force’ the same as ‘to love’?
Where did own responsibility go?
Where is: I respect (form of loving) your choice, even if I do not agree nor behave accordingly?
Where did the right to make mistakes go?
Where is : I’ll be there?
Where is: I’ll do my best to understand?
Where is: let’s talk and explain?
Where is: can we both compromise ? Will we?
Where is loving?
It seems love can be translated in many ways but to me it comes down to this :
Love is neutral.
Love knows many forms.
Love is simple and complicated.
Love is free.
Love is.
Loving is an ongoing process.
Loving is not easy.
And yes when you hold expectations of how it/she/he/they should be: loving hurts.
