I read a Dutch article about men who tend to spend time in their barn or shed or at times busy themselves somewhere else with something to do to their own liking.
To some of their wives, family-members or others it seemed as they were withdrawing from the relationship while the men involved pointed out they did not. They pointed out that after a certain period of work they needed time to relax; to un-stress.
I think this applies to men and women.
Daily many of us involve ourselves in the busy hustle of life. We encounter other people, we deal with different situations needing our attention, our involvement and energy.
Making decisions, working according to a certain routine or standard can over-activate our stress level and slurp the energy from body, mind and soul.
When energy is running away we need time to slow down, time for ourselves to reflect , time to let go of tension and to get our energy flowing in a healthy rhythm once again.
There are many ways to un-stress.
Some people un-stress by playing a sport, via a hobby, reading, watching a movie, meditation or other forms.
Some increase their consumption of alcohol or food….. No here I have to make a correction. When we have created this habit we are not un-stressing but we’ve acquired a habit to fool ourselves.
Because we are who we are, not everyone has or can understand this need.
Some of us do not seem to experience stressful thoughts or emotions. They tend to deal with their energy on a different way and some never bother to ask themselves if and how.
As for the well being of ourselves and the relation we have with others I advise to explain this need to your partner, family-members or friend(s). Giving them a chance to support you, to take time out too (perhaps at different moments) and to pull you back when you forget you are not alone on this world J
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