Friendship

To me friendship is a special form of relationship based on a mutual interest and respect.

I share many kinds of friendship at different levels of intimacy.  

With some friends I  go shopping, with  others  I go to clubs, concerts or theater.

I exchange thoughts and opinions.  I share laughter and good times.

With some of them I share ‘more’.

Some special friends I go to when in need of advice or a hug as they have the ability to give an opinion without condemning my thoughts or actions.  With them I hold  a relation that is based on mutual trust and holding open hearts and ears.  

It’s the kind of relation that has grown through time and took a lot of our investment.

For sure having that kind of friendship was and is not an easy thing to do. Because at moments  when I or they feel insecure or when in pain, our words and deeds can make the other feel like being under attack or abandoned.  

Such moments need the ability to be honest, it needs the dare to look at oneself and to admit the  ‘unpleasant’ thoughts and feelings we hold.  

At times in order for a friendship to continue we need to apologise and sometimes friendships come to an end.

Even at the end of a friendship the ability to being a friend can show by not betraying the trust which was there; by not speaking out badly nor revealing secrets shared.

Like Rollo May once said:

There is an energy field between humans. And, when we reach out in passion, it is met with an answering passion and changes the relationship forever.