HAPPINESS

I was asked: “how does one become happy, or what makes a person happy”.

I was asked to write down my opinion.

I noticed a smile on my face when reading the question.

About ‘Happiness’ many books are written, music and films made. Search for the word on the internet and you will find many opinions.

But you  questioner, you prefer my opinion.

Thank you for the question, thank you cause  you value my opinion and like to read it. This makes me happy.

To me 'to be happy' has many shapes en originates out of many situations.

To me 'to be happy' is an idea.

I decide myself when and if I am happy.

I decide what makes me happy, what I need to be happy and for how long I am happy.

It is my thought.

I can look around and compare myself to others. I can consider their opinion or how  they might think of me and value that to be the most important.

I can create the idea that I need this or that first like a ring, car, house, lots of money etc. and after obtaining  I will be happy.

I can create the idea that I need to be in a certain position first like holding a certain job or that I need to be married, or to be a mom or dad first. Or that I need to be alone or perhaps divorced before I am happy.

I can start thinking: oh too bad, poor me, now or in the future I cannot……., what will happen if………

In this way I undermine myself and create low self-esteem. I create emotions of gloom and sadness. Slowly but surely I set myself stuck.

I can make the choice to act on an other way.

I can start at the beginning and think: It is as it is. I am who I am, I’ve got what I’ve got, I do what I can and for all I am grateful.  At this moment it is sufficient and I am satisfied.

I do this daily.

In this way I value myself and notice feelings of joy and inner strength more and more. I empower myself. Slowly but surely I create energy and movement.

I decide what makes me happy.

I decide if I am happy.